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Cultural Codependence

Being uncomfortable is a skill. Standing in the discomfort and being present is a good thing to work on; holding space for yourself and others. We are not given many models or resources to just be ourselves, feel the feelings and be uncomfortable with others. There’s a lot of co-dependent behavior our society encourages. This article talking about one of those behaviors.

Conversational narcicism. It’s a thing. We all probably do it without thinking.. I like the NVC model to help me pause and reframe. I identify the feeling (For myself or a friend, practice with myself all the time) the need and the request, and the option to say no to the request.. so if I’m listening I can try to understand what someone is feeling, what their needs may be and have some framing around those things if I feel they might want support in that way. Often most of us just want to be heard and that’s enough.

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Women’s Health Part 2

Women’s health is everyone’s health. That said, I am sharing publicly about my cycle to let ya’ll know how we can easily help ourselves.

Second round/month steaming- I am steaming once for 20 mins right before I start to help things move. (As outlined in “Rainforest Home Remedies” highly recommend!)

The effects are powerful!!

I still have a hard time believe that sitting over a steaming pot of herbs for 20 mins can have such an effect but it absolutely did for me.

Still drinking crampbark and red raspberry leaf infusion as well, so that may also play a part here but let me tell you; no cramps, a lot of flow, more than usual, and RECLAIMED ENERGY AND VIBRANCE, most importantly!

The womb, I am coming to find is the center of a woman. A lot of you might be thinking.. “duh.” It took me this long to understand it for myself.

A friend shared she feels the most connected and powerful when she is in concert with her womb, her sacral chakra, that this is the seat of decision-making and energy-pushing. At the time I couldn’t relate. Things are opening in this way now.

Here’s the idea about the physical effects – my body and organs have been working hard as long as I’ve been here – as we go through cycle after cycle after cycle, things can get stuck, encrusted, causing worse and worse cramps and more energy (and blood) to be put in this area at this time to “push harder” which causes fatigue, you get the idea.

Steaming helps promote the sloughing off of those old, stuck physical bits so the uterus can do it’s job easier. I’m over the moon with the effects.

Ok, on to resources. If you want to read more about it, should you do it (have an iud? Maybe think twice, gave birth 4 months ago..? There are a lot of factors). This is a good link to start to get an idea, I am not promoting their product, I don’t know anything about it but the FAQ is a good read; https://www.soulvibrance.com/yoni-steam-faq/

They do sell special herbal blends, which is great but in “Rainforest Home Remedies” Rosita gives very simple and practical instructions including; use what you have. Oregano and rosemary are among her most common herbal allies. Italian blend works just fine.

Second Lauren S. Wales is a local massage therapist who has taken the training Rosita founded sharing healing Mayan womb/abdominal massage techniques, which she also details (womb massage, also very simple and practical) in the book mentioned above.

Okay, hopefully you’re feeling inspired, informed and empowered if you have difficult periods!

This is a lovely pampering Ritual to do even if you have no issues with your cycle.

I’ll probably share the diet recommendations for each week soon as well. ??

Ps. If anyone wants to send me this awesome steam stool post The Flying Cat ?
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Women’s Health

If you suffer from cramps (in general, muscle cramps too) during your cycle I tried a crampbark decoction (details on how to make / what it is below) last cycle and I am so thrilled with the results. I have been taking ibuprofen every cycle for a looong time now preemptively so I can function.

Crampbark decoction/infusion helped in a different way – it doesn’t block the sensations like convention medicine but it relaxes the muscles (revolutionary! Lol) so you’re still aware but not in pain. Wow. Highly recommend it.

Also I practiced steaming before last cycle began, helped as well, it wasn’t a big deal (used a cup of thyme from the dried garden clippings, or just use an Italian spice blend, boil it, the chair was the hardest part. Sitting over the steaming pot for a time, 10-20 mins). Wrap up, make sure you’re warm.

Back to crampbark – I don’t have a good local source for it yet, always recommend you support local economy if possible. I grabbed some at a festival last summer.

To make a decoction is very simple; boil 1tbsp dried roots for 10 mins. Strain, let cool, sip. I added raspberry leaf infusion too and the taste was perfect. 80/20 80 being raspberry leaf. Crampbark is not pleasant on its own!

To make an infusion is very simple; boil water, add a a cup of dried herbs to a 1/2 gallon jar add the boiling water, let steep for 24-48 Hrs, in fridge.

It all just takes a little forethought and planning and awareness of when your cycle happens.

There’s also a diet to follow to help balance us out hormonally to support each part of the cycle; releasing egg, ovulation, pms, bleed. Maybe another post for another time!

Herbs and water are VERY healing, especially steam and plants you grow yourself or you know where they come from.

This is not secret knowledge, nor is it difficult to do, it’s said to be the “people’s medicine.” We have it all available to us but it’s taken me many years to learn what I wish I knew at 16.

Cloth pads and menstrual cups, clary sage, there’s SO much we can use to support ourselves. And knowing we go “non-linear” for a week or two during the pms/bleed phase, we have OTHER strengths that our culture doesn’t value as highly as workaholism. There’s nothing WRONG with us at this time, in fact our psychic & intuitive abilities are enhanced at this time! If we only listen.

So I have a lot to say about this. I want to share all I finally figured out for myself to those 16-year olds and the 80-year olds and anyone who wants to know. Men need to understand this too; the future is female. And it’s NOT about acting like men, it’s embracing who we are and our needs and the needs of our communities and knowing ourselves.

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Liminal Time

So here we are, the time between. Between full and new, between Winter and Spring. Between North and East. The time of the year like the time of the pre-dawn. It is darkest and coldest right before the day is born. So it is with the Year.

We are in the time of pre-dawn and the time of waning lunar energy – turning inward time. A time of waiting, a time of preparing, a time of threshold, perhaps you meet a new gatekeeper at this time, to a version of yourself you’ve never met. Who were you? Who are you becoming? A time of quiet excitement.

You are becoming, you are quietly quickening. Listen. Pause. Still. Wait. Calm. Who are you between each breath? Are you the same inhaling as exhaling? ?

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Fire Releasing, Full Moon & Imbolc

Full moon is a time of releasing. You can put your hurts, grievances, shadows & anger on paper and release with intent. Notice where you feel the issue in your body. Fire is the quickest way elementally to clear energy. The full moon (today) is a great time to light the fire of life and come back to yourself.

We also have Imbolc this Friday, which, on the Celtic wheel of the Year IS a fire holiday – the townspeople would walk through their village after dark with torches of fat-dipped mullein and candles once Candlemas co-opted this sacred holiday and became about Mary instead of Brigid or the local’s goddess.

Imbolc means “quickening,” bringing to life. And so we look back at the last 6 weeks from Yule, gather our Yule greens and any items ready to clear by fire or give away (donate some stuff out of your house) so we can give birth to ourselves again as the cycle of life continues and in another 6 weeks the seedlings emerge from the soil, physically and within us. This is a time of seed-blessing, clearing to make space for new life and turning over – preparation.


Fire Ceremony Instructions (click “South”).

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Super Blue Full Moon with a side of Lunar Eclipse!

I’m coming out!

Friends, this is it. This all-the-things Full Moon in Leo is THE time. Join our newsletter to receive the Journal Prompts for this Full Moon for free!

Topics will be on

• Self-love

• Self-expression

• “Coming out”

…and more.

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Embracing the Senses to Attain Enlightenment

The scents of red wine, white wine, florida water, mugwort and copal Incense and fresh flowers.* How could you not love this practice?

Shamanic practices are kin to Tantra in my view – as I understand it tantric teachings are about embracing the senses to attain enlightenment.

Many teachings propose renouncing the senses and detaching from worldly things to “ascend.” I agree with a friend who stated that we are not here, in fact to “ascend” or detach but to live fully. To embrace being human fully, why then, would we not, how could we not enjoy the wonder of color vision or earthy smells, or whatever your senses bring you that draws you closer to a loving resonance.

*That’s what I feed my mesa altar once a week or so, so then the smells combine sweetly while I’m going to sleep.

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Dream Work

Do you have weird dreams? Share in the comments (I’ll share one of mine and my interpretation). Below is a technique we use to find the “meaning” of dreams or Journeys.

On Monday night Shamanic Journey class we use Robert Moss’s Lightning Technique for Journeywork but it’s really intended for Dreamwork, try it! –

1. Title your dream
2. What happened
3. How did you feel?
4. What’s the action plan – what action can you take based on the dream? I ask people how will they honor their Journey in the coming week or month.. usually it’s something rather simple.