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Cultural Codependence

Being uncomfortable is a skill. Standing in the discomfort and being present is a good thing to work on; holding space for yourself and others. We are not given many models or resources to just be ourselves, feel the feelings and be uncomfortable with others. There’s a lot of co-dependent behavior our society encourages. This article talking about one of those behaviors.

Conversational narcicism. It’s a thing. We all probably do it without thinking.. I like the NVC model to help me pause and reframe. I identify the feeling (For myself or a friend, practice with myself all the time) the need and the request, and the option to say no to the request.. so if I’m listening I can try to understand what someone is feeling, what their needs may be and have some framing around those things if I feel they might want support in that way. Often most of us just want to be heard and that’s enough.

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Women’s Health Part 2

Women’s health is everyone’s health. That said, I am sharing publicly about my cycle to let ya’ll know how we can easily help ourselves.

Second round/month steaming- I am steaming once for 20 mins right before I start to help things move. (As outlined in “Rainforest Home Remedies” highly recommend!)

The effects are powerful!!

I still have a hard time believe that sitting over a steaming pot of herbs for 20 mins can have such an effect but it absolutely did for me.

Still drinking crampbark and red raspberry leaf infusion as well, so that may also play a part here but let me tell you; no cramps, a lot of flow, more than usual, and RECLAIMED ENERGY AND VIBRANCE, most importantly!

The womb, I am coming to find is the center of a woman. A lot of you might be thinking.. “duh.” It took me this long to understand it for myself.

A friend shared she feels the most connected and powerful when she is in concert with her womb, her sacral chakra, that this is the seat of decision-making and energy-pushing. At the time I couldn’t relate. Things are opening in this way now.

Here’s the idea about the physical effects – my body and organs have been working hard as long as I’ve been here – as we go through cycle after cycle after cycle, things can get stuck, encrusted, causing worse and worse cramps and more energy (and blood) to be put in this area at this time to “push harder” which causes fatigue, you get the idea.

Steaming helps promote the sloughing off of those old, stuck physical bits so the uterus can do it’s job easier. I’m over the moon with the effects.

Ok, on to resources. If you want to read more about it, should you do it (have an iud? Maybe think twice, gave birth 4 months ago..? There are a lot of factors). This is a good link to start to get an idea, I am not promoting their product, I don’t know anything about it but the FAQ is a good read; https://www.soulvibrance.com/yoni-steam-faq/

They do sell special herbal blends, which is great but in “Rainforest Home Remedies” Rosita gives very simple and practical instructions including; use what you have. Oregano and rosemary are among her most common herbal allies. Italian blend works just fine.

Second Lauren S. Wales is a local massage therapist who has taken the training Rosita founded sharing healing Mayan womb/abdominal massage techniques, which she also details (womb massage, also very simple and practical) in the book mentioned above.

Okay, hopefully you’re feeling inspired, informed and empowered if you have difficult periods!

This is a lovely pampering Ritual to do even if you have no issues with your cycle.

I’ll probably share the diet recommendations for each week soon as well. ??

Ps. If anyone wants to send me this awesome steam stool post The Flying Cat ?
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Women’s Health

If you suffer from cramps (in general, muscle cramps too) during your cycle I tried a crampbark decoction (details on how to make / what it is below) last cycle and I am so thrilled with the results. I have been taking ibuprofen every cycle for a looong time now preemptively so I can function.

Crampbark decoction/infusion helped in a different way – it doesn’t block the sensations like convention medicine but it relaxes the muscles (revolutionary! Lol) so you’re still aware but not in pain. Wow. Highly recommend it.

Also I practiced steaming before last cycle began, helped as well, it wasn’t a big deal (used a cup of thyme from the dried garden clippings, or just use an Italian spice blend, boil it, the chair was the hardest part. Sitting over the steaming pot for a time, 10-20 mins). Wrap up, make sure you’re warm.

Back to crampbark – I don’t have a good local source for it yet, always recommend you support local economy if possible. I grabbed some at a festival last summer.

To make a decoction is very simple; boil 1tbsp dried roots for 10 mins. Strain, let cool, sip. I added raspberry leaf infusion too and the taste was perfect. 80/20 80 being raspberry leaf. Crampbark is not pleasant on its own!

To make an infusion is very simple; boil water, add a a cup of dried herbs to a 1/2 gallon jar add the boiling water, let steep for 24-48 Hrs, in fridge.

It all just takes a little forethought and planning and awareness of when your cycle happens.

There’s also a diet to follow to help balance us out hormonally to support each part of the cycle; releasing egg, ovulation, pms, bleed. Maybe another post for another time!

Herbs and water are VERY healing, especially steam and plants you grow yourself or you know where they come from.

This is not secret knowledge, nor is it difficult to do, it’s said to be the “people’s medicine.” We have it all available to us but it’s taken me many years to learn what I wish I knew at 16.

Cloth pads and menstrual cups, clary sage, there’s SO much we can use to support ourselves. And knowing we go “non-linear” for a week or two during the pms/bleed phase, we have OTHER strengths that our culture doesn’t value as highly as workaholism. There’s nothing WRONG with us at this time, in fact our psychic & intuitive abilities are enhanced at this time! If we only listen.

So I have a lot to say about this. I want to share all I finally figured out for myself to those 16-year olds and the 80-year olds and anyone who wants to know. Men need to understand this too; the future is female. And it’s NOT about acting like men, it’s embracing who we are and our needs and the needs of our communities and knowing ourselves.

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Liminal Time

So here we are, the time between. Between full and new, between Winter and Spring. Between North and East. The time of the year like the time of the pre-dawn. It is darkest and coldest right before the day is born. So it is with the Year.

We are in the time of pre-dawn and the time of waning lunar energy – turning inward time. A time of waiting, a time of preparing, a time of threshold, perhaps you meet a new gatekeeper at this time, to a version of yourself you’ve never met. Who were you? Who are you becoming? A time of quiet excitement.

You are becoming, you are quietly quickening. Listen. Pause. Still. Wait. Calm. Who are you between each breath? Are you the same inhaling as exhaling? ?

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Fire Releasing, Full Moon & Imbolc

Full moon is a time of releasing. You can put your hurts, grievances, shadows & anger on paper and release with intent. Notice where you feel the issue in your body. Fire is the quickest way elementally to clear energy. The full moon (today) is a great time to light the fire of life and come back to yourself.

We also have Imbolc this Friday, which, on the Celtic wheel of the Year IS a fire holiday – the townspeople would walk through their village after dark with torches of fat-dipped mullein and candles once Candlemas co-opted this sacred holiday and became about Mary instead of Brigid or the local’s goddess.

Imbolc means “quickening,” bringing to life. And so we look back at the last 6 weeks from Yule, gather our Yule greens and any items ready to clear by fire or give away (donate some stuff out of your house) so we can give birth to ourselves again as the cycle of life continues and in another 6 weeks the seedlings emerge from the soil, physically and within us. This is a time of seed-blessing, clearing to make space for new life and turning over – preparation.


Fire Ceremony Instructions (click “South”).

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Embracing the Senses to Attain Enlightenment

The scents of red wine, white wine, florida water, mugwort and copal Incense and fresh flowers.* How could you not love this practice?

Shamanic practices are kin to Tantra in my view – as I understand it tantric teachings are about embracing the senses to attain enlightenment.

Many teachings propose renouncing the senses and detaching from worldly things to “ascend.” I agree with a friend who stated that we are not here, in fact to “ascend” or detach but to live fully. To embrace being human fully, why then, would we not, how could we not enjoy the wonder of color vision or earthy smells, or whatever your senses bring you that draws you closer to a loving resonance.

*That’s what I feed my mesa altar once a week or so, so then the smells combine sweetly while I’m going to sleep.

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The Saboteur Archetype: Guardian of Choice

Are you willing to take responsibility for what you create? 

This is a concept I am revisiting while looking at the Saboteur Archetype. The Saboteur, according to Caroline Myss is the Guardian of Choice. When the Saboteur Archetype is not operating in the shadows, undermining our decisions, we feel empowered and responsible. Being responsible for what we create can feel overwhelming, daunting and often impossible. Faith is a key component to “managing” our energies. Oftentimes surrender is the answer even though it feels counter-productive to the controlling and overworking our society encourages.

Learning from archetypes can help us find a path to freedom.

Personally, I have wended through the Victim archetype (Guardian of Self-Esteem) for well over 10years, (only for about half of those years did I realize it!). I needed to make my way through the issues of Victimhood before I could approach the aspect of myself that was self-sabotaging which can often seem constant. My own process has involved much self-study, seeking guidance from others who have gone before me and learning how to pray and connect to a Force bigger than me; one that I can trust my life and decisions with – it is when I take those things back that I become overwhelmed and lost again.

These are human experiences, we will always be forgetting and remembering continuously as well as learning from our mistakes. Being alive means we get to practice being who we want to become and we will never achieve “perfection” because we are not perfect beings. Learning from archetypes can help us find a path to freedom.

Studying Archetypes and seeing how they play out, especially the Shadow aspects, can be a very helpful resource toward self-empowerment. It can also be confusing and complicated – try to keep things simple by focusing on one aspect of whatever Archetype speaks to you the most.

Right now, I am willing to take responsibility for what I create, as much as I can and trust that the rest will fall into place whether I feel like I can manage it all or not!  I am enough, I have enough, I do enough.

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Tea Ceremony with Cats

Lily did a private tea ceremony for my partner and me to see how we felt about hosting her offering. I had a simple and profound experience with the Cha Dao ceremony and Lily as facilitator made it all the more sweet. She is a beautiful space holder and the ceremony has ancient roots although it is very simple and can easily be done as a personal morning routine or for winding down at night. I am looking forward to sharing Lily’s offering with you and of course spending time with our kitties!

Tea Ceremony /  Lily & Julia / About the Cats

About Cha Dao Tea Ceremony

Join us for a sacred tea ceremony stewarded by Lily Raphael at The Flying Cat. Considered a sacred plant medicine intended to restore harmony to the body, mind and spirit, tea allows us to connect to ourselves, each other and nature. As we sit in silence, Tea will guide us through a peaceful, reflective journey inward while inspiring a curiosity to connect deeper to the natural world. To aid in this journey, we will also be blessed by the joyful presence of our feline friends, Suki and Szuszi!
Teas shared in the early evening offer a deep, restful, and relaxing effect on the mind & body, as opposed to teas shared in the morning, which tend to be more uplifting. It’s advisable to come neither on an empty NOR full stomach, so that you may take in the medicinal aspects of the tea relaxed and wakeful. We will sit cozily on the floor, with cushions and blankets provided. A chair can be provided for you if needed – just let us know.

Julia Martin is the owner of The Flying Cat

Julia has practiced and shared ceremony and yoga for over 10+ years, energy healing for almost that long. She is excited to host this self-care opportunity for a simple but profound experience for all involved.

The Flying Cat is her Art Gallery showcasing her own original artwork and personal studio for small group classes and privates for yoga, energy healing and shamanic journey all of which she shares in the space.

 

Lily Raphael

Lily Raphael is a steward of tea in the greater Cincinnati area. She learned this practice while staying at the Tea Sage Hut tea and Zen center in Taiwan and through her brother, Max. She is thrilled to be sharing tea at the Flying Cat!

 

 


Meet our Cats – the resident Flying Kitties.

Suki is a 10-year-old Tabby, from the streets of Covington, Ky. She loves to play squiggle (with a pipe cleaner) and adores catnip, chips and cheese. She does like a little affection but not too much, she will definitely let you know if she doesn’t want to be touched, please respect her space.

 

Szuszi is an 8-year-old Tonkinese who loves people, peoples’ laps and pretty much any kind of attention whatsoever. She is excited to meet you and often helps with the website and emails.

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Elements as Medicine

Are you working with the Elements as Medicine?

You are probably already working with Elements in a medicinal way without even knowing it – when you sit with a cup of tea or a hot shower or bath you are letting the element of Water take care of you!

I have been practicing self-care lately by paying attention to my constitution internally and the environment then connecting to whether I need more or less of an element or combination of elements. This work is all about intention and what makes sense!
For example, on a cold and rainy day, I would light candles and possibly use Smudge (Air + Fire) to balance the elements in my environment and keep harmony within my own body and home. Another example; a dry cough, I would use an herbal steam to meet the needs of my lungs and sinuses or possibly dry sinuses need a little oil (Water + Earth).

For a hot and humid day, ice and a fan is clearly appropriate, you’re probably already using this
method to beat the heat in the middle of summer. It can be part of our natural instinct to draw in a harmonizing element in the form of hot or cold; herb or fruit (Earth), ice or steam (Water), mud baths and exfoliating scrubs or epsom salt baths (Earth + Water), incense or smudge (Air+Fire) to cleanse or consecrate yourself or your
space, the list goes on and on.